Thomas J Parlette
Return to Me
Joel 2:1-2, 12-17
3/2/22, Ash Wednesday
Bob Laurent, in his book, A World of Differents, tells of sitting in the living room reading when he heard a terrible scream just outside his front door. Like most parents, he could recognize his own child’s crying, so flew out the door to the scene of the accident.
There was his three-year-old son, Christopher, upside down, in tears, the victim of a crash while riding his Big Wheel. In one fell swoop, Laurent scooped up his son and brought him inside. He held his son in his arms and said, “C’mon, son, let’s dry those old tears up.”
“But Dad, it hurts!”
Then Bob says he have his son a stern, serious look and said, “I know, but son, big boys don’t cry.”
And as soon as those words passed his lips, Bob says an image of Jesus popped into his head. There’s Jesus, a man in his 30’s, standing outside the tomb of his good friend Lazarus, crying because the loss hurt so much. Then he saw Jesus looking over the city of Jerusalem, weeping for what the city had become.
Laurent writes, “This man who never met a situation He couldn’t handle, could shed tears from the depths of a broken heart. So, yes, big boys do cry.”(1)
That’s what the Bible teaches – it’s ok to cry. Paul once wrote, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.” In fact, there are references to weeping throughout the Bible. And it’s not just the women at the tomb. In our passage from Joel for tonight we read, “Even now,” declares the Lord, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning. Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for God is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love…”
It’s all right to weep or cry, in fact the scripture calls us to do so. In fact, there are three times when it is particularly appropriate to shed some tears.
First of all, it’s alright to cry over the state of our nation. In Luke, we read, “As Jesus approached Jerusalem and saw the city, he wept over it and said ‘If you, even you, had only known on this day what would bring you peace- but now it is hidden from your eyes.’”
It would certainly be appropriate to weep over our nation as well. We look around and see racial inequality, gun violence, hatred, poverty, lack of housing, health care and food, It’s enough to make you cry – from sorrow and frustration. I think a few tears would be appropriate over our society these days. It’s alright to cry over our nation.
And, it’s alright to cry over someone you love. In John, we read, “When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”
“When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. ‘Where have you laid him?”
Come and see, Lord.
And Jesus wept.
Jesus wept over someone he loved. If there is someone you really care about, sooner or later you will shed some tears. Especially when we lose someone to death.
C.S. Lewis, the great Christian writer and thinker, was staggered by the death of his wife Joy. He felt as if he were drunk or had suffered a physical blow to the head – as if there were a blanket between him and the rest of the world. He was in such pain that he reports that he could not even pray. Every time he tried, it was as if a door were shut in his face, and he could hear it being bolted from the other side.(2)
Some of you have been there, you know what that’s like. Your grief has been so overwhelming and tears flowed down your face giving some sweet, if temporary, relief. It’s alright to cry when you lose someone you love. Nothing is healthier or more natural.
Of course, you don’t have to lose someone to death to shed tears over them. Some of you have shed tears over your children or family members, next door neighbors, or fellow church members. It’s all right to shed tears over the state of our society, and it’s alright to weep over someone you love.
And it’s alright to cry over our own sins. That is the weeping that this text for Ash Wednesday is about: “Even now,” declares the Lord, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning. Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for God is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love…”
It’s alright to shed tears over your sins. Tonight begins the season of Lent. Among the familiar scenes in this season is that of Simon Peter sitting out in the courtyard, and a servant girl comes to him. “You also were with Jesus of Galilee.” But he denies it. “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”
Peter goes out to the gateway, where another servant girl sees him and says, “This man was with Jesus of Nazareth.” Again Peter denies it – “I don’t know the man.”
After a little while, those standing there go up to Peter and say, “Surely you are one of them, you speak with a Galilean accent.”
And Peter begins calling down curses, swearing to them, “I don’t know this man!”
And then a rooster crows. And Peter remembered that Jesus had said, before cock crows, you will deny me three times. And he went out and wept bitterly. I think it’s the saddest moment in the Gospel story. Yes, it’s alright to shed tears over your sins.
In our modern world, we don’t know tears like that. These days, you issue an apology through your PR firm, go on Oprah for an interview, or maybe get a book deal. Nobody cries over their sins anymore.
The late comedian Jonathan Winters once told about negotiations involving his autobiography. Several publishers he approached about the book wanted to be sure that he included details of any scandalous relationships he had had. Winters had already decided not to tell all – he decided to keep his sins to himself and not cry about them in public. Five different publishers asked him, “What about your affairs?”
And Winters just said, “They are in order.”(3)
Our secular world knows nothing of weeping over your sins. Some of you might remember that a recent version of Nathaniel Hawthorne’s The Scarlet Letter had a different ending than the original story. Evidently Hollywood felt that modern audiences could not relate to a man slowly destroying himself with guilt as did the adulterous minister in Hawthorne’s original story. So they gave the movie a happier ending. After all, who could weep over breaking one of God’s commandments in our modern world. I guess not.
But there are times we need to weep over our sins. There are times when we need to confront the worst within us and rend our hearts, if not our garments. That is what Ash Wednesday is all about.
Pastor John Keith tells about taking his father to Israel. When they got to Jerusalem and viewed the Wailing Wall, there was a great crowd of people praying. The guide told them that the Jews would start praying at one end of the Wall and make their way to where the Holy of Holies used to be. And the guide told them an unusual phenomenon would occur. When the people would begin to pray at the Wailing Wall, their confessions of sin wouldn’t bother them too much. But the closer they got to the Holy of Holies, the more aware of their sins the became… and they would begin to weep.
The closer we are to God, the more conscious we are of our sins.
It’s okay to shed some tears. Sometimes it’s over the state of our country or our world. Sometimes it’s over the loss of a loved one. And sometimes, if we are close to God, we shed some tears over own sins and shortcomings.
“Even now,” declares the Lord, “return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning. Rend your heart not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for God is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love…”
Let us approach the table and begin the season of Lent.
1. Dynamic Preaching, Vol. XXXVIII, Vol. 1, p43.
2. Ibid… p44.
3. Ibid… p45.
4. Ibid… p45.
5. Ibid… p45.
