Thomas J Parlette
“The Heart of the Matter”
Jer. 17: 5-10
2/16/25
“The heart wants what the heart wants.” I’m sure we’ve all heard that old adage at some time in our lives.
Emily Dickinson is credited as the author of those words, although her full quote is: “The heart wants what the heart wants, or else it does not care.” She wrote those words in one of her letters in 1862.
In 1992, Woody Allen gave Dickinson’s words new life of sorts when it came to light that he was having an affair with his step-daughter Soon-Yi Previn. Some people took it as a bit flippant when a reporter asked him about the appropriateness of the relationship and Allen responded – “The heart wants what the heart wants.” That didn’t set well with a lot of people.
Analysis of Dickinson’s original quote seems to indicate that she was saying that our emotions and desires, represented by the “heart”, are often beyond our conscious control and can’t be easily reasoned with; we simply feel what we feel, and attempting to fight it is futile; it implies that love and attraction can be inexplicable and not always logical.
Her last phrase – that often gets overlooked, “or else it does not care”, would seem to imply that resisting our hearts desires can be pointless, as our feelings will remain regardless of our attempts to change them.
A romantic notion – but a bit fatalistic perhaps.
An anonymous modern author built on Dickinson’s thoughts when they noted – “The heart wants what it wants, even that which is worst for it.”
I would venture to say that the prophet Jeremiah might agree. In today’s reading Jeremiah puts it another way. “The heart is devious above all else; it is perverse – who can understand it?” Not quite as romantic as The Belle of Amherst put it – but there it is.
The idea of a heart that is deceptive by nature is a controversial assertion. To begin to think about this, we need to ask what is meant by “heart.”
We’re not talking so much about the physical organ, but the metaphorical organ. In the Bible, the heart is described as the center or seat of emotions and desires. It is where feelings such as love, joy, sorrow and anger reside.
But the heart is also the nexus of all our thinking and will. Scripture views the heart as the center of a person’s thoughts, intentions and will. It is where decisions are made and intentions formed. When such a locus is deceitful, then even our reasoning and decisions can be flawed and self-serving.
The Bible considers the heart to be even more. It is the moral and spiritual core of a person. It’s where one’s true character and motivations lie. Jesus seems to argue that both good and evil can flow from this spiritual core. In his “Sermon on the Plain” from Luke this morning, he says, “The good person out of the good treasure of the heart produces good, and the evil person out of evil treasure produces evil; for it is out of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks.”
So, this is what the Bible means by “heart”: the center of our being that includes emotions, thinking will, a moral compass and our spiritual core.
But is the heart deceptive? Jeremiah would have made a great Protestant, because he believed so. He believed that the heart was inherently flawed and prone to sin, just as John Calvin and other Reformers taught, making the heart a source of moral and spiritual corruption. The delusional nature of the heart can manifest itself in a variety of forms.
The delusion might be self-deception. Our emotions and thought processes can deceive us by making us believe that our desires and actions are justified when they are clearly not to any dispassionate outward observer, and certainly not God, who knows the intentions of our hearts.
The devious nature of the heart might also be seen in our susceptibility to sin. As the Apostle Paul famously noted, doing what is wrong is easier than doing what is right. To paraphrase Paul, “I do the things I know I shouldn’t, and I don’t do the things I know I should. I don’t understand. I’m at a total loss.” Even a spiritual giant like Paul is stumped by the complexity and deviousness of the human heart.
Our continually lies to us. It tells us that we can ignore the laws of good health and abuse ourselves with unhealthy food and drink. It tells us that happiness can be bought. It tells us that we can use other people and ignore their concerns and needs. It tells us that the path to happiness is the path of least resistance. The heart is a subtle and devious thing.
But Jeremiah has an answer, one that Paul agrees with as well. Jeremiah starts this passage today by encouraging us to trust in the Lord. Those who put their trust in the Lord shall be like a tree planted by water, sending out it’s roots by the stream. It shall not fear when the heat comes, and it’s leaves shall stay green; in the year of the drought it is not anxious, and it does not cease to bear fruit.”.
We hear a very similar message in Luke in which he presents his own shortened version of the beatitudes… “Blessed are you who are poor, hungry and hated – because yours is the Kingdom of God.”
This, then is good news. Knowing that our emotions, thoughts, will and very spiritual core tend to be self-serving and devious – there are checks and balances to safeguard our moral center.
Self-examination is a big one. The need for a periodic inspection is like a regular wellness check. It’s good advice concerning our physical bodies and it’s good advice for our spiritual being as well.
Take it from of history’s greatest thinkers – Socrates, for example – is reputed to have said “the unexamined life is not worth living.” In Shakespeare’s Hamlet, Polonius said to his son Laertes, “To thine own self be true and thou canst by no means be false to any man.” Aristotle wrote that “knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” The great transcendentalist thinker, Ralph Waldo Emerson, said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
Entering the world of religious thinkers, one of the earliest Christian theologians, Augustine, said, “Know yourself, that you may know God.” And our own John Calvin reminds us, “Without knowledge of self, there is no knowledge of God.” (1)
Self-examination and reflection is a good practice. If we regularly examine our heart and motives, we will do ourselves a great service. This is also the season when we think about establishing some spiritual disciplines to strengthen our inner lives. In the coming Lenten season we’ll talk more about the classics, such as daily Bible reading, praying, Bible study, and meditation. Perhaps you need to carve out a daily quiet time, or find a place to do centering work, just as you would when setting up a regular schedule to get to the gym or workout at home.
Accountability is another important part of self-examination. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can offer support, encouragement and accountability. Share your struggles and seek guidance from those who are also walking faithfully with the Lord.
Seek contentment is another part, maybe even a goal of self-examination. We should learn to find contentment not only with our relationship with Christ, but with the material things we have.
This past May, Steve Wozniak, co-founder of Apple, gave a commencement address to the graduates of the University of Colorado Boulder. He said that at the end of his life, he won’t measure his happiness by the size of Apple’s market cap or his personal net worth, but by the jokes he told and the laughter he shared with family and friends. He went on to cite the work of Harvard University professor Arthur C. Brooks, saying, “People often struggle to find happiness because they see it as a destination – if they get married of have kids or get a big promotion, they’ll finally be happy.”
Brooks calls this the “arrival fallacy.”
“Happiness is not a destination, it’s a direction,” says Brooks. “The way that we get happier has somewhat to do with the things going on outside of us, but it has more to do with our inner lives.”
“Finding things to be grateful for in the midst of hardship – like your loved ones or good health – can shift your brain into a more optimistic mindset and help you overcome those challenges,” added Wozniak.
“So, stay honest, keep smiling and pay your own successes forward,” he said. (2)
As Luke put it: “Blessed are you who are poor, hungry, excluded and hated – for yours is the Kingdom of God.”
Or, as Jeremiah says: “Blessed are those who trust in the Lord – they shall be like a tree planted by the water… in years of drought – which we certainly understand these days – they shall not cease to bear fruit.”
That is the heart of the matter.
Thanks be to God. Amen.
1. Homileticsonline, retrieved 1/16/25.
2. Ibid…